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Darlene here: There's no way to describe what this evil was.
Children I've worked with have already shared concerns about whether their school is safe. And whether this could happen to them.
As adults & professionals, we need to reassure the children that there are safety systems in place at the schools.
Kids want specifics about safety at school. We don't need to relive the details of the incidents, but let them know that schools have them.
Small children from 3 to 5, if they don't know about a traumatic incident, you don't need to tell them. Keep them in their normal routine.
For older kids, they are very concrete. They don't have abstract thought like adults.
Hi there! Depending on the child's age.... For a small child, ages 3 to 5, if they don't know about the incident no need to share it with them.
For older kids, it's important to answer questions but not repeat the traumatic details.
Children do not think in the abstract way until about age 13. So, if someone shot kids at a school, young children think that shooter could come to their house.
Let kids know we are here to protect them! There are security systems in schools to help.
Does this help? Feel free to ask more questions, sir!
Hi there... I am so sorry that children receive misinformation.
By no means does the fact your child has Asperger's make him a danger to anyone in the school.
Unfortunately, this young lady must have been told by an adult that the Newtown CT shooter has autism.
VERY important: Remember children have concrete thought therefore do not realize that just because this happened in Newtown, doesn't mean it will happen in their town.
As this age, the think very literally, and do not have abstract thinking skills.
It is important to stress that this kind of evil does not come from autism. I would recommend you talk to the teacher and the principal
It would help to provide some education about autism to the students: to be clear that no psychological issue by itself causes this kind of tragedy.
How else can I help? Any more questions?
Thanks for the question... It's great that you're actively trying to treat your depression. If you feel the current medication isn't helping it's important to contact your physician.
Explain the symptoms you're still experiencing. He or she should be able to recommend many different options. Don't give up!
It's important to talk to your son and let him know that many people are unaware and don't have the correct information. Remind him of his strengths and how much you love him.
Also, let him know that in life many people say unkind things or things that are untrue. And that he doesn't have to dignify that statement with an answer. He can walk away. Also, I think ona national level, we need to give more information about the autism spectrum.
These children have many unique qualities, as you know!
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As we think about mental illness and other conditions, it's important for people to know, that regardless of a diagnosis that is made about the Newtown, CT shooter, no single psychiatric condition causes this kind of tragedy,
Hi Kristen.. Thanks for sharing. Your reactions are normal following this terrible tragedy.
It's important to seek professional help so there's a safe environment where you can process these feelings without your children feeling they need to help you.
Also, it's imperative to get your son in to see someone. His anger is justifiable but he needs some help to know this is never an appropriate response. A therapist can help him process his feelings.
Let your kids know that this was a terrible tragedy and was pure evil. Evil people don't walk the streets every where. Your kids are safe. You and their father and school officials will make sure they are safe.
You are on target John. 3 is too young for discussion of this tragedy. Keep your three year old in a normal routine.
As far as your 5 or 6 year old, don't discuss unless they know already and have questions.
Yes, do let his therapist know as soon as possible. And remember, that despite the fact your son may have an autism spectrum diagnosis, remind him of his gifts and unique qualities and that you love him. Good luck to you!